Whenever one of my friends returns from some time away, I ask: “Was it a vacation, or was it just a trip?”

When traveling with kids, true vacations are pretty hard to come by. With the packing, the automobile seats, the change in sleeping schedules, and all the inevitable whining that comes along, it would be way easier to stay home (especially when traveling by car.)

And yet traveling is important. When we travel, we open to a world that was previously unknown to us. We touch other cultures and other ways of life; we broaden our own perspectives and understand, finally, that our small problems are just that.

When we travel with kids, we open their eyes to all of this and more. Even when we take a easy trip to visit distant relatives, we show them a world of love that they might not had known existed.

Here are eighteen tips to help you enjoy road trip traveling with your kids.

Before the trip:

1. Use online trip planning websites to locate kid friendly parks, historic monuments, and other attractions in advance. Plan at least one child oriented activity apiece day, even on those driving days. Involving your children in the planning of your pass will help them to get excited about the trip, too.

2. When you are doing your research and booking your destination, think about an all inclusive resort. These types of arrangements (in which your lodging, dining, attractions, and activities are included) can really help you rest and enjoy your precious pass time.

3. Have apiece child pack their own small backpack with the books, workbooks, and activities that they most want to bring.

4. Have a kid friendly travel map on hand, as well as a pair of binoculars.

5. Think about buying or borrowing a portable DVD player. We only get ours out on long trips, but it has been really helpful, especially if you are traveling very long distances.

6. Get apiece child a special book of games, puzzles, or easy coloring books, just for the drive, along with some washable markers.

7. Bring some music that everyone will enjoy singing along to. We love our CD of old campfire songs. You can even create your own CDs of family favorites.

8. Bring a Frisbee or a football for when you stop at a park. You want to help your children burn some energy in a reasonable amount of time.

9. Pack healthy snacks, such as nuts, trail mix, apples, energy bars, and bottled water. A package of baby wipes often comes in handy for tiny messes in the car, too.

10. Pack a journal and a disposable camera for apiece child, so that they can document the trip in their own way. These items can be gift wrapped and given to the children as you need a diversion from boredom or sibling arguments.

11. Make sure to speak about your pass like it is the eventual adventure. The enthusiasm that you bring to the prospect of piling into the automobile will help in untold ways.

In the Car:

12. If you can, do as much traveling as doable while your children are sleeping. Of course, country is paramount. If you find yourself getting at all sleepy, pull over and switch with your spouse or find a hotel.

13. If you do not like to drive at night, or you are driving through countryside that you would like your children to see in the daylight, make sure you leave plenty of travel time. Plan on a maximum of seven hours of driving per day. Get up early, drive a bit, and then check into your hotel in the mid afternoon and enjoy the swimming pool. Have a nice, relaxed dinner and leisurely check out some local sites in the evening.

14. While driving during the day, plan to stop at least apiece hour and a half. Stretch, take some bathroom breaks, and remember that getting there is half the adventure.

15. Finger knitting really helps my children to pass the time. All you need is a ball of yarn. There is no mess and you can find easy instructions online by doing a Google search for “Finger Knitting.” During our last automobile trip, we all arrived at our destination with lovely pink finger knitted scarves.

16. During a routine fuel stop, ask apiece child to select five or six postcards, which they can send to their friends. Make sure to bring your address book and postage stamps so you can mail them on the way.

17. Grant one child to be the “navigator” apiece day. The navigator looks at the map and gives suggestions on where to stop for snacks, gas, and meals.

18. Try these easy Travel Games:
The Alphabet Game: Find all the letters of the alphabet, in order, on license plates, billboards, and road signs. Or find objects that start with apiece letter.
I Spy: One mortal spies something in the landscape or in the automobile and gives clues. (One doable variation on this game is “20 Questions.”)
License Plate “I Spy”: See how many says you can spot.
License Plate Alphabet: Find all the letters of the alphabet, in order, on license plates.
Letter Bingo: Print out Bingo sheets with clip art or words depicting sites you will see on your trip.

Ultimately, it is important to remember that there is no such thing as a perfect family vacation. Prepare as much as doable in advance, and then rest and go with the flow.

Family Travel Tips: 18 Ways to Enjoy a Road Trip